Beauty...

I love to blog. I have been so bad at it lately though!  I want to do better, but can't make any promises until after our big move in a few weeks!  Life is crazy and stressful and hectic and wonderful and also not wonderful.  I have hardly taken pictures lately aside from the families I have photographed for the business.  I like to have pictures with my posts.  I may have to get over that and just make time to type instead!

I would venture to say that things in my life are getting better.  I am noticing the beauty in what we are going through much more than I was a short few weeks ago.  We have a long way to go in this family of ours...lots to work through with our kids.  I get stressed, I have a fear of being judged by friends and family for decisions that I am making so I stress about it.  I feel like I am constantly explaining myself and my reasons for doing things.  I need to just get over it.

 

We have incredible support from so many friends and family.  We have people who actually want to spend time with our chaos filled family and who love us despite the fact that we don't have it all together at the moment!  That is a beautiful thing to have such wonderful support.  Truly, this season has been difficult.  We knew it would be, but we had no idea that we would feel so loved by so many.  And then I feel like I am the worst friend ever.  I am constantly having my friends call and offer to take a child for an hour or two while I go run errands or who listen to me vent about countless things or who text me to say hello and see how we're doing only to not get a response from me (Leslie, I am talking about YOU...you must think I am just awful!).  I want to respond instantly to these emails and texts from you all who haven't heard back from me, but I swear I put the phone down to deal with something and then something else comes up and then something else and then before I know it, it's midnight and I can't text back!  It's a vicious cycle.  I haven't mastered being a mommy to 3 yet and sometimes I wonder if I ever will!  I do love it most of the time though.  I really do...moreso in the last couple of weeks as I feel like I've settled into the role a bit more.

I love all of you and appreciate all of you and pray that you know that I do even though I have been terrible at expressing it lately.  Somehow you all are still there for me...it's amazing and humbling.

I still have some pretty crappy days, I am going to be completely honest about that.  However, I am noticing a lot more beauty around me then I was a few weeks ago.  I am stopping and soaking in the good moments, the calm moments, because these days they are often fleeting!  Frequently they are interrupted with a scream or crash or cry or the wiff of a poopy diaper. ;)  No matter what, I love being a mommy to these boys, all 3 of them.  However, it takes a village...and I must say that our village is full of beautiful friends and family who keep us afloat.  Really, if it weren't for you all, we couldn't do this.

As I was unloading all 3 boys from the car today when we got home, I even pulled my camera out and stopped in the chaos of grabbing bags and children to snap the 2 pictures above of our lillies out behind our house.  I can't say I would have done that a few weeks ago...I can't even say I would have noticed their beauty a few weeks ago.  And that my friends is progress!

Our quirky one...

I love Tate's quirkiness.  He is so darn funny to me!

He got this sticker from Von Maur today and in true Tate fashion, he stuck it right on his forehead and left it there until it fell out a couple of hours later.  He didn't even do it as a joke, that's just where he wanted it.  I love that about him.

And I am sorry, but this child is just simply gorgeous in my eyes...

 

And I was taking his picture and he started doing his fake smile.  I said, "don't do your fake smile, just look normal."  This is what he did...

 

I want to reach right into this computer screen and kiss his face right this second!

Bubbles...

While the 2 little ones napped today, Tate and I had some much needed 1 on 1 time out back blowing bubbles...

 

He had quite the set up for us when I arrived outside to play.

 

 

 

I love the sticker placement...he is just too much.

He has been struggling a bit lately.  Maybe it's the lack of preschool which kept him pretty scheduled in addition to the realization that these 2 brothers of his aren't going anywhere.  Not sure, but it's been rough lately with this one.  We definitely need to take advantage of the 1 on 1 time when we can get it.
I love him so much.

Swimming Lessons...

I signed Tate and our 3 yr old up for swimming lessons at the YMCA along with Ava and Chloe.  They'll all be in the same class.  God help their teachers!  Seriously.  I am so glad it's a class that the parents aren't included in!  We get to drop them off and work out while they have lessons!  SWEET!  We were hoping that the Zumba class would be at the same time as their lessons...no such luck.  Oh well, Lora and I will at least get an evening a week to work out in addition to the Zumba we hope to participate in each week. :)

Hopefully we'll have 4 little swimmers between the 2 of us by the completion of summer!

keeping busy

***Thanks for all of your help on your favorite diaper rash creams from my previous post!  You guys rock.***

I had a better day yesterday.  Funny though, I prayed the longest, hardest, deepest prayer after posting on my blog that last post.  I prayed for strength and help and GRACE and for everything I could think of!  What happened that night?  Our baby was WIDE AWAKE from 11:30pm-4:30am and Tate was awake from midnight-4am and then our 3 year old promptly awoke when the other 2 finally went to sleep around 5am.  I had slept for about 45 minutes at this point.  To top it all off, Sean was working the night shift so I had to deal with all of that on my own.  Strange answer to prayer.  I survived and then tried to analyze why that was handed to me at what felt like one of my lowest parenting points yet.  To show me I AM strong?  To show me that I don't deserve to have it easy here on this earth?  I will never know in this life.  However, I made it and then had an ok day the next day.  And I will take OK as of late. :)

I am finding that I MUST keep myself busy.  Going places, doing things, whatever keeps me busy.  For some reason, it helps me feel better.  Weird, I know.  I should just want to do nothing for days on end, to have a break.  I guess that's not how things work.  So I plan to have a BUSY summer!  A few vacations are in the works, moving, remodeling a house, having parties, swimming lessons, photo sessions, whatever keeps me busy.  So if you ask me to do something and I have a spare moment, the answer will likely be, "yes".  Sean may be annoyed by all of this, but he's dealing with my brand of crazy right now. :)

How's this for a Negative Nancy post?

It's been a rough week.  Our 3 year old is testing us to the max.  I am disappointed in myself.  That's all I have to say about that.

I haven't packed a thing in this house.  We are closing in 3 weeks.

My house is a mess and the laundry is out of control.  I can't keep up.

I forgot to send Tate's birthmom her Mother's Day card and pictures and JUST realized today.  I feel awful.

Tate has been struggling.  Not sure exactly why.  Maybe the testing that's been going on from our 3 year old.  Or monkey see monkey do...I don't know.  All I know is that he has not been behaving well at all.  It's frustrating to deal with.  He's angry and acting like a baby these days, crying at the drop of a hat.

I haven't lost any weight in a few weeks and haven't been running regularly like I wanted to be.  I need to go to the Y, do Zumba, SOMETHING.  Maybe that would help my mood.

We are having a party in a couple of weeks (June 2nd) and I didn't get the invites sent out until almost 2 weeks later than I wanted to.  I am fearful that no one will show up.  Or maybe I'm just being negative.

We messed up on our 2009 taxes and got a letter in the mail that we had to pay back just over $300 that we were paid that we shouldn't have been paid.  Awesome.

When looking back on our taxes, we realized that we possibly made that same mess up for our 2010 and 2011 taxes as well...so that's something we have to look forward to.  Double awesome.

Our baby has a nasty diaper rash...like bloody and terrible.  He's had it for days and we can't seem to rid him of it.  He screams when we wipe his bum.  It breaks my heart.

And that's what I've got tonight.

Update on the new house...

So we picked out a hot tub we were going to buy for the new house a couple of weeks ago.  It was a used one that the place we were purhasing it from was going to refurbish before selling it.  We told them we wanted it.  We were excited.  We have been advised that our little one would benefit from some water therapy and we knew this would be perfect for us to use for that.  We didn't feel the need for anything fancy and hot tubs are expensive so this would be a perfect fit for our first one!  Inexpensive and basic.  Well, there were some issues with it at the same time that we were having some issues with the fridge we had picked out to purchase.  To make a long story short, we have decided to wait on the hot tub (probably not priority at this time!) until this fall or winter which is when we will use it more anyway and instead spent more than we were planning on the fridge.  However, I am super excited about our fridge! :)  So now, we've purchased our fridge and dishwasher, we have our oven and microwave picked out, we've got our paint colors picked out, our furniture picked out and now we need to pick out our carpet!  We will be looking at that today!  All we need is the house now! :)

Can't wait to see it all come together and to have a much bigger space to call home!  I will definitely be taking lots of before and after pictures.  The big moving day will be June 23rd!  That day can't come soon enough!!!

Tate Graduated!

Here's Tate at preschool roundup. He looks like a BABY to me here!!!

 

Here are Tate and Ava at roundup.  They both look so little!

And here they are on their 1st of of preschool!  LOVE this picture!

And then yesterday, in the blink of an eye, they became kindergarteners!

The graduation was cute.  They sang, did a little program and played.

 

 

They got graduation certificates and a special gift from their teachers...

 

We LOVED their teachers.
Tate with Mrs. Christiansen...

Tate with Mrs. Hoogheem...

We loved Redeemer Preschool...I personally would highly recommend it.
I think Tate would too!

Congratulations my sweet boy, can't believe you will be in Kindergarten next fall!
Love our little graduate so much!

Happy Mother's Day, Mom!

I know I've said it before, but I am going to say it again...I have the best mom in the world.  I put her through hell while I was a teen...oh my, I wasn't much fun for she and my dad I don't think.  It's amazing how things change.  She is one of my best friends, we talk every day (aside from a rare occassion) even if it's just for a minute.  I tell her (almost) everything! :)  I still learn from her all the time and she always takes the time to teach me, give me motherly advice and be completely honest with me.  Even when I think I am right about something, she will tell me if I am being silly or if I need to look at it from another point of view.  Sometimes I don't always like to hear what advice she gives, but she tells me anyway because she's my mom and that's what moms should do.  I don't know what I'd do without my mom being just a phonecall or short drive away.  We laugh together (a lot), cry together, talk over one another, vent to each other, we shop REALLY WELL together, share jewelry and clothes and tease each other.  I can always count on my mom...always.

I love you, Mom!
Happy Mother's Day!!!!